tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6921476851679113662.post7603724286142564356..comments2020-07-16T04:52:39.363-07:00Comments on Ms. Kim's Parenting Helps: Natural and Logical ConsequencesKimhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10399373286826165852noreply@blogger.comBlogger1125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6921476851679113662.post-17266100525443228542011-03-11T13:22:07.381-08:002011-03-11T13:22:07.381-08:00Kim, this is a discussion from my friends' web...Kim, this is a discussion from my friends' website - thought you might like it:<br /><br />Jill:<br />I just read the book "Scream Free Parenting". I really liked it a lot. I'm trying to calm down when I need to discipline my kids and focus more on my own emotions so I can discipline in a positive way. Anyway, I am trying to come up with consequences for my kids. For example, we do time out, when anyone in our family leaves there dish out they have to put it away and ten other items, or if they walk on the carpet with shoes they have to vacuum. I am running out of ideas for consequences. Do you have any good ideas or insights that work good in your families?<br /><br />Heather Simonson 3 days ago<br />I read an idea that I really liked for if they leave toys out. Have a "Saturday Basket". If ANYONE in the family (including mom and dad) forget to put toys or items away, then the item goes into time out in the saturday basket until Saturday, when the items are allowed to come out and be put away. <br /><br />Also, I don't know what your kids do in the way of chores, but when mine were that age I did a "treasure box" and I made them chore charts on the computer that used pictures to show them the chore. The chores were very simple, like help mom with the dishes (picture of dishes), read your book for school (clip art of book etc.), hang up your coat, make your bed . . . I had those star stickers and each day that they did their "chore" they put the star on. At the end of the week they could use their stars to "buy" items from the treasure box. I had things like the 5-piece gum packs, small pieces of candy, fake tatoos, playdoh, dollarstore toys, matchbox cars, chapstick for Emmy and even fingernail polish for her, but the better the item the more stars it cost, and so often they would buy some candy or something and then save up the rest of their stars to get something really big from the box (like fingernail polish or a hot wheels) the next week. This worked really well because they were excited to get as many stars as they could, and they knew the "star price" of the item they wanted because I made a list of the cost and put in the treasure box. The younger ones won't understand "saving" stars so I just made their really good items cheaper for them, and their really good items were still really cheap =0).<br /><br />Wendi Simons 3 days ago<br />I love the ideas. I have as my kids gotten older let them pick the consequences out of a list of things when they got in trouble (grounded from the computer, tv, or wii for the day/week). Or if I am anticipating them not following through or breaking a rule sometimes I prep them and have them pick there own consequence and then they are better to stick to the rule. Landon really likes rewards too. We have a chore chart and they can earn help with a chore, a fun activity of there choice like playing cards with me, and sometimes at the end of the week if they did really great we hang out as a family and get a treat and play games together. We might have already done that but if they were awesome on the chore chart I really try to point it out and tell them that was why we got to have such a great time playing games they like.<br /><br />Janna Herron 2 days ago<br />Hey, timeout still works for me so far...I am sure that I am going to have to step it up a notch in the next while because Audrey is starting to become a bit more independent. Thanks for the ideas guys.<br />________________<br /><br />It is hard to think of a "logical" consequence unless you are faced with the misbehavior.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01169756682267741997noreply@blogger.com